A few years ago I thought it would be nice to plant a lilac bush. We went to our friendly Lowe's, found one, brought it home and thought we were planting according to instructions. Still not sure why, but that thing shriveled up and died, despite all our best nurturing.
Telling Tom we HAD to try again brought me to the root (pardon my pun) of the problem. A lilac bush came with the last house I'd lived in with my parents. And Daddy loved that floral delight! Round two: gotta get it right, because Daddy loved lilacs.
A couple of years ago it was no surprise when Tom wanted us to plant roses. His dad's roses were so beautiful! Dad's been gone over twenty years, but I still think I'll see those luscious blooms when we pull into the driveway, and am so sad when I don't. Missing them is missing him.
We're still coaxing and coddling our lilac and rose bushes. And I discovered another reason they are so important to me. T'hey're not only reminders of the two dearly loved men who have had the greatest influence on our family. They're also important to me because I want to show them to Annalyn and Gracie, and tell about their great-Granddaddy and great-Grandpa, and how much they loved their families.
Recently Annalyn had her first piano recital. I won't need a calendar to remember when it was; it was on Dad's birthday. Daddy and Dad seemed to enjoy watching the kids perform a great deal. The last visits each of them made to our house was to join us for a performance by one of the kids.
As I sat and listened at Annalyn's recital, a little longing crept over my heart and threatened to steal away the moment. Thankfully, a still, small voice encouraged me by telling me not to miss the moment by lingering in the past.
I know I am enormously blessed to have known, loved and been loved by two incredible fathers, more blessed than I can ever express. What I'm learning is keeping their memories alive is so much more than lilac bushes, roses, and piano recitals. It's teaching the young ones to love, respect, and treasure their families above all else but the Lord.
Have you also been blessed by a "dad"? What legacy of theirs do you hope you are passing along to the children in your life?
2 I will tell you a story. I will tell you about things from the past that are hard to understand. 3 We have heard the story, and we know it well. Our fathers told it to us.
4 And we will not forget it. Our people will be telling this story to the last generation. We will all praise the Lord and tell about the amazing things he did.